Tuesday, July 11, 2006

tribute to the tears

don't fuck all the rabbis.
just this one.
this one's for you dave:


if i'm being bad and unruly
you can give me the stare
sometimes i'm a menace-truely.
but don't you touch a hair

upon my head
you heard what i said
i'll write 'i won't whatever you want' a million times
but the minute you raise your hand
you've crossed the line

don't you dare take your aggravation out on me
we no longer living in the the 18th century
you punish by using kinetic energy
you no longer the instructor
you the enemy

when that hand met flesh
you broke more than the silence with the noise
you broke more than my selfworth in my eyes
when you hit me in front of the boys
you broke more than my blood cells
you broke every bond that i ever had
relating to any 'greybeard'

and so now i've had enough
with this shit you tryin' to sell
try it on the devil, schmuck
'cause you gonna be burnin' in hell

now every ham i eat
everytime i go counterpoint
every time i drive on saturday
everytime i light up a joint

i'll be thinking of you
that rabbi back in high school
the one the one who din't understand me- the fool.
if you's the icon of my religion
i don't ever wanna be a jew

so thank you rebbe
for this was the best lesson you ever gave
next time we meet
i'll be pissing on your grave.

though when yom kippur rolls round
i promise i'll be prayin'
but 'God let that bastard die'
are the only words i'm saying.

so let me wrap this up
i'm almost through
i guess all i'm trying to say is: fuck you
fuck you
fuck you
and everyone in your crew
who approve of what you do

sorry for taking up your precious time
sincerely,
-the one who slipped through.

59 comments:

anonym00kie said...

wow

Anonymous said...

'u heard about the niner em packs, you mess with us u get ur fu**in face cracked' (s/t like that) reminded me of that. nice.

s.J. said...

right.
thanks y'all.

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Wow I think this is the first poem I actually understand lol. Said very well! Can this poem be for a rabbi of mine that I have in mind? Thanks I'll take that as a yes.

s.J. said...

sure.

this is all a true story that happened to a guy a know.
but if it works for you, insert your rabbi/anyone-of-who-had-a-position-of-authority-and-acted-completely-out-of-line.

;iulu said...

well said sj, well said.

mmm..some principals* should have this tacked to their eyueballs were they'll never forget it. abuse of authority never sat well with me..

curious, how'd the guy react?





*one blankety-blank in particular

s.J. said...

which guy? the one who slapped?

David_on_the_Lake said...

omg
How old were u?

s.J. said...

not me .
i guy i know.

(though i've been publicly ranked out before)

;iulu said...

ye, the one smacked.

Scraps said...

Oh. My.

Ouch.

Rivky said...

happened to more than one guy I know and I don't know that many guys.

verbal abuse can be just as bad.

s.J. said...

he went off the d.
was a drug abuser.
don't think he's keeping anything now.

;iulu said...

--------------------------

(just got this overwhelming urge to give that rabbi his due..not that i'm promoting violence or a/t but...grrrr this makes me so mad!)

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Thanks makes me feel better just to imagine the poem is about this rabbi who traumatized me.

Scraps said...

Wow...am I the only one who hangs out here who hasn't been personally traumatized by someone in the rabbinate and/or principal of school?

s.J. said...

scraps- good for you. i wish there were more people here like that.

Scraps said...

Not to say that I haven't been touched at all; I know people who have been ruined by authority figures in their lives. But I myself got messed up all on my own. :-P

s.J. said...

welcome to the club.

kasamba said...

You can't imagine the tears streaming down my face.

That so easily could have been my son.

The yeshiva my inlaws wanted me to send him to was reknown for smacking the boys. My father in law finally gave up pressuring me to send him there when I told him that if one Rebbe so much touched my son, I would walk into the school and deck that Rebbe, in front of everyone, with my famous right hook.

anonym00kie said...

ok not to be insensitive or anything, cuz honestly i really feel for this kid, and for whoever else has suffered at the hands of such jerks .. but.. do poeple really go off the derech because they were badly treated by a rabbi?
(im not talknig about something like sexual abuse or abuse from a parent)
couldnt it be that this is just a justification, an excuse to free oneself from the hard work of deciding to not go off the derech?

(im really NOT trying to be insensitive to anyone, im just trying to make sense of these things and understand and hopefully learn from it)

s.J. said...

i dunno. i know the guy had a minor learning disability, which made reading (especially hebrew)hard for him.

but i'm putting money down that this guy is one of the nicest people you will EVER meet.
and if the rebbe would't have hit him, he may have been the nicest orthodox mechanic you'd ever know.
(is it possible that the dude was just looking for an escape route? if so, he sure found a damn good one)

but besides for him, what about my father's classmate who was made to crawl through the school with a paper tail taped to his rear, barking like a dog- b/c he watched 'lassie' the night before?

or the chubby boy who was made sit under the rebbe's desk, where the rebbi would then kick him mercilessly; then with the rest of the class, pummel the boy in the gut while shouting 'leshem matzos mitzvah' all in the name of good fun?

not everybody's looking for a way out.

anonym00kie said...

omg sick..

kasamba said...

SJ- ARE YOU IGNORING ME??????

s.J. said...

emmm...
no.
why would you think that?

kasamba said...

There, that's better.

I have a mean right hook, ya know.

s.J. said...

so i'm sure.

(heh heh heh. please take your pills?)

the only way i know said...

OW

the only way i know said...

amazing poem - i think it should be printed world wide (jewish world wide, that is)
and WITHOUT censoring!

s.J. said...

thanks. perhaps one day...

the only way i know said...

Mookie

no question about it - people do go off the derech because of rabbeim like that...
btw - off the derech is also relative.... could be someone went off 'somewhat', and not 'all the way'
my bro was definitely traumatized at some point...
TG he's now married, living in the five towns with wife and kid..
he's lucky
some others are not....
i've heard way way too many stories..

why just the other day, my son came home from school
he's 9
they had a sub rebbe
who beat the crap out of the kids...pinched, slapped, pulled, threw... you name it...
i didn't even know about it until a week later when the class rebbe was due back
i could go on and on..
s.j.'s poem is not an exxageration..

s.J. said...

'though if you want to start the crusade, be my guest.

it's only that sometimes i'm afraid my opinions/vocabulary maybe to certain [clean/pure/blissful] minds as the slap was to my friend's cheek.

i don't need someone throwing it all away b/c of me.
(i've got my own hell to deal with. i don't need it doubled)

the only way i know said...

well, it's certainly very powerful
and i think it should be publicized..
part of it's power is the language (obviously) - but what you say needs some consideration...

anonym00kie said...

towik PLEASE tell me you went to complain about this teacher!!!!!!!!

the only way i know said...

actually - i spoke to a couple of people, but have yet to speak to the headmaster(tomorrow, though - promise..)

the only way i know said...

i've been procrastinating lately - not a good thing - ESPECIALLY in circumstances as these..

anonym00kie said...

towik, this is the first time i hear about how common this is and im so shocked, but what im the most disturbed about is that parents seem to accept this. can you imagine if a kid came back from public school and said heis teacher hit him or slapped him or pinched hi.. it would be all over the news, it would be an outrage..
i just dont get it how this is acceptable..

chaya said...

people who act like that do deserve the vulgar language that you use.
Unfortunately people take the idea of education and treat it like it's pie. Teachers don't realize that every child they are working with is a world and they can really destroy it!
And yes, people might use an excuse for going off bec their Rebbe hit them but, that is a good excuse because if their rebbe who is supposed to be their role model acts like that and they get hurt, the only way to take the hurt away is to leave any memories of that rebbe and all that has to do with him and run away from it.

s.J. said...

whoa whoa whoa.
i find your usage of the word 'vulgar' to be vulgar.
i prefer the term 'not nice'
(but then again, nobody likes to hear that they act/speak vugar.)

yes the rabbis and parents should hear it as it is- but not the kids. they need a watered down version.
kinda like the concept of not accepting candy from strangers.

;iulu said...

omfg!!
they did that tokids in your fathers school???

(sounds like its straight out of a dickens book..)
and unsettling just the same

s.J. said...

the doggy one.

matzah boy was a classmate of a neighbor of mine.

the only way i know said...

MOOKS
It's not acceptable. and i'm ashamed to say this - but had it been my own kid - i would have been down at the school like a streak of lightening outraged,
i don't know if the parents whose kids it happened to complained - anyway - as i said - today's the day - will let you know..

;iulu said...

(pardonnez mon français mais scheisse.)

so many [more] things to say. not enough tim eto say it

Scraps said...

I think my own experience was partly as positive(!) as it was because I went to a very small community school for elementary school (no "rebbes", just regular teachers) and they actually held the teachers to some sort of behavioral and educational standards. Thank G-d for Montana (never thought I'd say it, but it's true!). My school experience--both in elementary school and high school--was bad, but for social reasons, not the teachers.

smb said...

Thats so sad. we should always remember how we have an effect on people and that we can either help them or ruin them. When a person goes off, their neshema doesn't get the spritual food it needs. Very sad.

the sabra said...

(...opened your blog to this post a couple times but shrank back cuz of the language...finally did read it and i appreciate the thoughts and writing...but not the cussing..can you imagine? sucha sensitive sabra...o another thing-ur a big loser if you let one person negativize (?) your life like that..)

anonym00kie said...

the sabra- i dont know if "loser" is the word id choose, but i really dont beleive that one person can have such a drastic impact..
on the other hand..
i do think one person can be the straw that breaks the camels back..

Scraps said...

By the way, flor, the word you're looking for in French is merde. You mixed it up with the German. :-P

s.J. said...

sorry about the language, but this place is one of the only spots where i can breathe freely.
if you'll notice, i never use foul language with/on a person/site that i know will mind.

loser, eh? i'd like to see you slapped in the face infront of your entire class and shrug it off.

the sabra said...

never said shrug it off. i said negativize ur whole life.

(hey im not tellin noone how and what to write..curse away if thats what your holy tongue feels like doing..by all means go ahead..i am NOT ur boss/teacher/mentor/quide/parent...was only sharing my feelings-clarifying why i didnt read/comment till now...)

;iulu said...

scraps- neh. the german usage is more obscure and thus less offensive (but i'll bear urs in mind next time. if there is one)



m00k- but do you think one person can be the most positive and 'undo' the negativity that's seeped into ur life? (man! i feel like writing a 'counter-poem' of sorts..not to counteract sj's..but to parallel it in a way..)

s.J. said...

go do it girl!

;iulu said...

slowly..i ahve to brush up on my creative wriitng skills..and now that bob jr and jr. jr. are gone..i can hear whats going on around me more to cull from and integrate into my prosetry..
g'shabbos

;iulu said...

(dont worry, jr. jr. jr. is still alive and kickin')

s.J. said...

whew!
(had me nervous there for a second)
good shabbos right back at you.
(send my best to bubby)

;iulu said...

she says 'hi sj- come back and visit next time you're in the 'hood . we're sorry you only met uncle mikey on pesach and not the rest of the crew, oh and we have choc. chip cookies waiting for next time ..baked with splenda® of course'

s.J. said...

me and dad will chow down.

;iulu said...

and ice-cold milk um.. i mean cheese curd to go with it..

s.J. said...

heheheh