Friday, June 16, 2006

listen up

You stand by me
I stand by you
If there is a fight I'm the one to come to
Good and bad, times we've been through
You got my back and I got yours too
All of my life you are in my crew
I'd do anything for you
Beat someone black and blue
Black and blue and I'd do it for you

-the transplants.

i swear it. friends are family.
(never forget it)

60 comments:

kasamba said...

Too true!

SJ_And I'd slash someones tyres for you!

s.J. said...

any day of the week.

if that's what needs to be done.

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Beautiful! I knew it before you wrote the poem.

Anonymous said...

shit
i think im gonna cry
and thats a shame cuz i finally just stopped..

anonym00kie said...

can i disagree without sounding like a poopyehad_bitter_jaded_antisocial_hermit? friends are fun, friends are great, friends are this, friends are that..but family? i dont know..

s.J. said...

sw/fm- not poem; song but thanks regardless.

anony mouse- don't cry. but if you need to, you've got shoulders to cry on.

m00ks- there was a time when i followed your philosophy. friends are parasites, etc.
but those kinda friends ARE parasites.
those kinda friends will leave you in the rain and eat your slice of pizza when you've left the room.
they'll suck you dry and leave you to rot.

but true friends are far and few. and when you're down, they're there to lift you up. and visa versa.
won't let you get stuck in the drunk tank without bail. these friends are the ones that really give a shit about you at the end of the day.
(and you're right. they're not family. they're fucking better than family.)
you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends.
and i thank God every day for all y'all.

p.s. i'm just as antisocial and hermity, if not more.

Anonymous said...

anonym00kie- sometimes...one has no other alternative..

s.J. said...

annoyingmous-shut the hell up. everyone's got family.
and you're one lucky twat to have the one that you have.

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

Ok sorry, see I always mess up. Now always sometimes. I don't feel bad.

Anonymous said...

if u ever need a fencing partner....

s.J. said...

SWeltering FlaMingo- whut?

dood- anytime.

the sabra said...

ye those friends are fine. lemme know where i can buy em.

(did i miss the SWearin' Flappy Mongoose contest?)

socialworker/frustrated mom said...

What word didn't u understand. I mess up but I don't feel bad. I have never been called a sweltering flamingo thanks for the ultimate compliment.

FrumGirl said...

Friends are userious. Sorry but I do not agree. Family will always be that which friends are not... there for you - they are your blood. Friends are fickle. Friendships fade. Families remain forever.

Rivky said...

familys are easyer too keep up than friends. besides they define who you are. friends are great. family is greater cause you don't even have to be friends with them to get the benifits.
but friends are great too, cause if they drive you too nuts you just stop hanging out with them and don't have to deal with them anymore

s.J. said...

maybe i'm crazy.
maybe i'm just a kid.
maybe it's different for boys vs. girls.
but if you're a friend of mine, i've got your back.
period.

anonym00kie said...

maybe there's a time for friends and a time for family. when you and your friends grow up, get married, have jobs..how close do you think you can stay with them? family on the other hand, you'll want to reconnect to as you get older.
i just feel that personally ive had great friends that have been there for me, that have helped me..but when i needed a safe place, a place where i could completely let go and be 100% vulnerable, it was with my family that i ended up finding it

s.J. said...

right.

i guess i'm not married with child.

but then i don't know if i'll have a blog then either.

s.J. said...

alright people. i think i get what you're trying to tell me.
but still...

friends, regardless of what you all think of family vs. friends: if you stick with me when i'm in a pinch, if you ever are in trouble of any kind, you know i'll do ANYTHING i can for you.

anonym00kie said...

so.. can i borrow 20$? :)

Anonymous said...

i know im pissing you off sj, and im really sorry for it.
the family an outsider sees, sure as heck isnt what it's like when they doors are closed and the shades are down. right, i know, i should be thankful blah blah blah. but when every day's a torturous game of hide-and-never-seek it hurts. hurts deep, that i cant go home to be myself, to let out my fuckin' pent up emotions EVER. to be scared that when i cry myslef to sleep, ill still be that way in the morning. my pillow soaked and laden with what i cannot say. to have a callous family-member see it and have to bare my soul..yes. its seems i take family for granted. sue me.

so maybe its my fault, i dont know and its too late to go backward and pick up the shards beacuse they slice you when you're not looking.

so one turns to friends if they have the strength to ask.. and yes, it sometimes entails crawling back on bleeding knees and broken heart and all that junk because a true friend never judges.

and like someone a long time ago said "without friends i'd rather be dead" (choni ha'ma'agal??)

s.J. said...

m00kie- if you NEED it, i'll get it.

s.J. said...

anonymous- but that's with every family.
heck, that's with every group of people stuck with each other for too long.
but regardless of what you can or can't say to them:
you're pretty damn lucky to have the family that you have.

Anonymous said...

i there a way i can respectfully disagree?
im only here b/c i have nowhere else to go.
i odnt think that's the definition of family..

s.J. said...

no. stop foolin yerself.
you've as great a family if i ever saw one.

Anonymous said...

um..you do know who this is right?




(course you do, i had to 2x check)

Scraps said...

SJ--when you're talking about the kind of friends I think you're talking about, I will agree with you, though I'm not sure I've ever had one.

"anon"--I'm on your side with this one. Family is not always a blessing, and it is not always the blessing it seems to outsiders. (Even if I can't hug you, can I at least squeeze your hand?)

Anonymous said...

nope, sorry.
im shomer

Anonymous said...

nope, sorry.
im shomer

Anonymous said...

I think that some friends can be like family. my girlfriends are like sisters to me.

Scraps said...

Btw, anonymous, it's not Choni, it's Rav Yochanan, iirc.

Anonymous said...

(sure? I thought when he woke up, wandered around and realized no one knew him from a peanut- he said the friends thing..then again, i was never the pay-attention-in-school-type..)

Scraps said...

Ohhhh...I was thinking of a different case. Yeah, I think you're also right.

Rivky said...

it was both of them. choni when he woke up, and R' yochanon when reish lokish died. (so much for not knowing my gemarah)

the sabra said...

anon (& scraps)-painful to hear. what do u know of blessings n curses? unless they bludgeon ye to death (inc emotionally) i dont want to hear such talk! (see such writing?)

kasamba said...

Okay, I've stood by you-
Now where the hell are you????

Scraps said...

Sabra, you don't think a family is capable of doing that? Even inadvertently?

s.J. said...

what do you need?

the sabra said...

i do.
thats why i wrote unless they do etc and i didnt say it was impossible.
i meant UNTIL but i didnt wanna predict bad stuff
(if ya know what im sayin..)

but at least, at least if ya have family, however unblessed they may seem, at least you have something to work with. there is potential.

Anonymous said...

we all have family. all came from somewhere..question is..what's left of it..?

anonym00kie said...

ok this post is getting depressing, well the comments at least..
those who have friends appreciate them and slash tires for them, those who have families, appreciate them and be there for them,
and those that dont have either.. blog .. or something..
now s.j. write a new poem pleasssse

kasamba said...

Yeah, I second that!

Anonymous said...

good.
relish ur families then.

;iulu said...
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;iulu said...

m00kie- that's just it. The "..or something" is what gets us into deep cow pies..blogs are but a colorful band-aid on a broken bone..



/depressing thoughts

Rivky said...

whatever your family is like, just thank god its not like david pelizer's family (unless it is) after reading that, you thank god for your family no matter what.

s.J. said...

listen-
my head is so empty right now;
but i'll try to get s/t up over the next day or so.

;iulu said...

right trix- i started 'a child called it', very..informative.

oh and the woman next to me on the train had no hands, wanted to give her mine. Later the guy walking in front had a weird leg. put me to shame of course..but..(since we're not continuing this line of thought..i think ill go to bed)

s.J. said...

the dude with no legs.
the guy without an ear.
the lady with the scarred smile.
just part of the large as life 'i spy' we live in.

Anonymous said...

but what's the point of seeing this if it has no effect?

s.J. said...

who knows?
comic relief? (JUST KIDDING!)

Anonymous said...

no ur not.

stick a squirrel in the blender
pop an eyeball in your mouth
enjoy the juices as they run down your chin
floss your teeth with the wiry tail

;iulu said...

(oh and don't forget the frozen meat on a stick today..im saving my appetite for this..)

s.J. said...

eep.
what have you been watching?

;iulu said...

the uncle sj channel of course.

s.J. said...

right.

Bonnie B said...

Yes, I feel that way about some--very few-- of my best friends, but it was only after I had children that I realized I really would do unspeakable things to anyone who messed with them.

s.J. said...

there we go.
that's what i'm talking about,

;iulu said...

ah.
the mother-bear instinct.
(i'd rather not cross you in a dark alley with your kiddies in tow..)

Bonnie B said...

not if you know what's good for you:)